I was chatting to a weight management professional yesterday afternoon who was also chatting to someone about to reduce her weight. The weight professional said to the dieter 'the first week of any diet is the hardest, just hang in there and try your best and then hopefully you'll be ok.'
Now not wishing to deconstruct the sentence but lets just say from a motivational point of view then the following is true.
1. You have just told someone that dieting is hard, therefore they are likely to believe that and find it so!
2. Hanging in there means you are struggling and needing willpower, again that is an assumption and a perception and the dieter is again going to be expecting to struggle!
4. Hopefully you'll be ok....which immediately says to me that it's unlikely and you'll need some luck to get through it.
Now language is everything, if I tell you that something is hard you are more likely to find it that way, and also the reverse is true. Now of course personal experience and other factors are involved but do you tell yourself or others just how hard dieting is? Is it hard compared to climbing Everest or landing on the moon? Is it really that hard or what if you decided it was easy? What if you thought it was easier to diet than to walk to the chip shop?
Perception is absolutely everything and therefore choose your words carefully as if you believe that dieting is impossible and very very hard then I guarantee you will prove that to be true...