Most dieters I work with are very good at analysing their own problems, they already know what most, if not all, their issues are and have a very clear view of the landscape and what they need to do.
But the problem can be they don't do it, so they analyse themselves a bit more and spend more time debating in their heads why they can't just trim and slim down and stay there.
Einstein once said 'We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them'
And that is very true, if you dwell on a problem long enough then it will stay a problem and the more you analyse the problem the more it becomes a problem...
When I chat with people they are looking for the revelation moment, the time when they realise the one moment in their past that got them big and what they need to do now to change it.
But the reality is that there isn't really a revelation moment, sure there are times you will make decisions and stick to them and that is great but don't expect a light bulb to appear above your head and the pounds fall off you.
The key to success to find something that works for you and repeat, repeat, repeat until you are slim, everyday you need a revelation moment to keep the wind behind you and remind you why you are on this journey.
Don't look for a moment in your past all the time to get to the bottom of things as while you are living in the past the present is passing you by, and having recently lost my own family members then I realise more than ever now that living in the present and enjoying life today is what it is all about.
One of my mantras is learn from the past, plan for the future but live in the present and it works really well for me, I used to spend a lot of time going over my childhood and my 20's looking for the answers but all I did was relive a lot of the pain and therefore feel more deflated than I did before, now I can look back with acceptance and peace on my past and remember the good times of which they were always there buy maybe hiding behind the anger, sadness, guilt and grief.
