I spend a lot of time working with and talking to people who want help with their weight and other life issues, the thing you notice the most is that although a lot of the behaviours and lives are similar at the same point everyone has their own story, their own baggage and their own past and therefore when I work with people I don't judge them based on my own prejudices and experiences.
I was in Tesco last Saturday with a friend and a large lady walked past with a trolley full of cakes, pizza's and other 'less healthy' foods. My friend immediately made a judgemental comment about the food and her, I reminded him that actually he knows nothing about her, for a start the food may not even be for her but even if it is then it is her life choice and you have no right to judge and offer your opinion on what others do.
As it happens he drives a huge red sports car and no more than 24 hours earlier I was sticking up for him when someone was saying what an idiot he looked while driving around the town. Again people very quick to judge without knowing the person inside the behaviour.
Now my life isn't perfect, I am no angel and have no wish to be one either as I don't think the wings would suit me, I screw up all the time, I have a past, I've done some really stupid things, I have prejudices and baggage and all the other things that the rest of the world has but I don't judge others and therefore before you gossip or talk about others whether about their weight, size or anything else then remember the Lawrence Lovasik quote
'It is just as cowardly to judge an absent person as it is wicked to strike a defenless one. Only the ignorant and narrow-minded gossip for they speak of persons instead of things'